The cool hard facts are, then this isn’t going to work if you can’t handle a poly relationship – and not everyone can. I’ve myself seen folks whom attempted to be cool with being poly before it was over because it was the only way they could be in a relationship with the person they loved… and it caused everybody no end of grief. Rather than to seem insensitive, you must be usually the one to manage your anxieties. The man you’re seeing is right: this really is section of whom he could be, it is one thing you knew moving in, and telling him to improve it isn’t fair to him because you can’t handle. In the same way constantly subjecting your self to misery is not reasonable to you personally.

If you wish to you will need to make a go for this, then your very first thing you must do is get yourself into treatment to manage your anxieties. Merely tossing your self in to the mix and hoping that you’ll go numb eventually is really an idea that is bad. Having a person who makes it possible to process your emotions and show you whether you continue seeing your boyfriend or not through them will be invaluable. The 2nd thing you have to do is begin doing all your homework. You should read Opening Up: A Guide To Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino if you haven’t already. It’s also possible to like to have a look at The slut that is ethical A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other activities by Dossie Eston and much more Than Two: A practical guide to ethical polyamory by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert. Read More